Why do women..

afraid to be fat?

i went googling for some quote. i found this page, which has a lot of good quotes, but I was especially struck by this one from Our Bodies, Ourselves:

Many of us are convinced that making women afraid to be fat is a form of social control. Fear of fat keeps women preoccupied, robs us of our pride and energy, keeps us from taking up space.

There's a certain amount of energy that each of us has to spend in making sure we are healthy, making the best choices, and feeling good about ourselves. But this quote still gave me a chill. Because not a single one of my male friends obsesses about weight or has ever obsessed about weight to the extent that women do. they even have belly like a pregnant women, so why do they care?some of them in the other way around is gaining weight.and here I mean most women, not just women who have legitimate health issues. We obsess about weight to the exclusion of what? Equality? Is it possible?

Maybe men do feel the same preoccupation, except without the societal permission to talk about it. people don't talk when bumping with fat,fat men. it's different when comes to women. or maybe we, women, are allowing ourselves to be controlled by this fear, as the quote above suggests. Maybe we are wasting our energy on something that ultimately isn't that important, and is in fact even more insidious than we imagine.

What is dieting btw?

Dieting includes any changes you make to what you eat with the goal of losing weight. Dieting can be not eating particular food groups, cutting back on the amount you eat, not eating anything and/or only eating certain types of foods. for the sake of god, not eating anything is not dieting. its, DIE-ing!!

So, why die-ing? err, dieting i mean..

to look good, basically. kan? because people think it promises us the perfect body… and the perfect body promises us popularity, boyfriends, sexiness, and an almost perfect life. Perfect life?

what is perfect life?

to love and to be loved. love makes the world go around. so does money! but then why we need to try to look good and perfect in front of those who loves us even though they already accept us as the way we are? i mean,the boyfriends. we are perfect, in their perspective. but then again, there's asshole boyfriend who just loves the outsides. see, how gampang solo tells about this.

the ex-girlfriend really got to sing this song..

Go on now go
Walk out the door
Just turn around now
'Cause you're not welcome anymore
Weren't you the one who tried to break me with goodbye
Did you think I'd crumble?
Did you think I'd lay down and die?
Oh no, not I

I will survive
Oh, as long as I know how to love
I know I'll stay alive
I've got all my life to live
I've got all my love to give
And I'll survive
I will survive, hey hey..

hey, why do we need perfect body?

again to look good. and as mentioned earlier, it promises us popularity, boyfriends, sexiness, and almost perfect life. let me go over this one by one, and relate them all with my current standing.
but before that, to make everything clear. there's some questions, need to be answered.

my height = 168 cm
my weight = 53 kg.

so you will now imagine how i look alike..
ok, about the promises..

1. popularity.
popularity?am i popular?how many people even know me in faculty?or is there even any person who know me? yeah, the classmates maybe.so whats popularity?popularity can be described by bunch of different things.it can be a group of snobs or a bunch of unique people hanging out and they are strangely talented or just really nice.thats popularity.its not true if you say only skinny,pretty,and snobby people could be popular.just take adibah noor into consideration. she's hot in her way and of course she's popular. so, it doesn't matter how you look alike.just be yourself to fit in and don't even think to wear green striking pants to raise the attention. it is popularity, but..well, you know what i mean.
so, the first promise = failed!

2. boyfriends.
you got to ask me. how many guys have i dated before? to be honest,nope. there's no one ever ask me for a date. i mean, guy. or approached me or whatever. why?am i fat?no im not. or they are afraid of me because im too tall for them? sometimes, being tall and slim sucks! if you ask adibah noor, again, i believe the answer is not the same. why? because love is not because you have the hot body, jlo's butt, or whatever you wanna say. i have friends that have boyfriends whom don't want them to be slim. takut di kebas orang katanya. that's love. in facts almost 2/3 slim slim friends of mine don't have boyfriends. different people have different perspective. some men don't want a tall, slim girl to be his girlfriend. in contrast, they love fat,cute,chubby chicks. sometimes people just fall in love with somebody and look beyond what they thought was a strict criteria! remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.so, it really doesn't matter if you don't have hot body, as long as you have 'hot,hot' heart. heh.

Quote:
A century ago or so... bigger girls were thought to be more attractive.
(sebab best nak peluk! hehe. fikiran kotor datang!! =p )

2nd promise = failed!

3. sexiness.
to make it simple:

she's 'cute' and sexy!

but then we muslim cannot wear something like that.not to be sarcastic. me is me, and you is you.sexy is not necessarily when you wear short pants or skirt, or singlet or bikinis. some people may think that you are sexy when you wear jubah. the other thinks sexy is not your body, but your heart. sexy in the way you talk, you smile and you think. you are sexy when you have the confidence in whatever you do. sometimes when you wear high heels, there is someone staring at your feet. because he/she thinks it looks sexy. so, why you have to be slim to be sexy?sexy is not necessarily when you are slim.

Quote: too fat to be sexy..

naaa, it should be like this.. too sexy to be fat! ;)

i definitely don't want to look like this. boleh patah pinggang bila2 masa je.

(so where to hug?!!!)

3rd promise : failed.

4. perfect life.

do you think your life is a mess just because you are fat? of course not right? is my life perfect? my life is perfect. but the perfection is not because of my body. my life is perfect when i'm in the middle of my lovely family and friends and we are together laughing with the silly silly jokes that we've made, sitting together sharing a mamee slurp for dinner and gossiping or discussing about investment analysis;how to calculate warrant premium, broke a mug in a shopping mall and then ran from the guilty, trying the lipsticks and make up in guardian, sneak out a bottle of chilly sauce from kfc, celebrate each other's birthday,go for a madness weekend after a week struggle with calculating the shares and debentures and income statement and balance sheet and statement of changes in equity and taxation and auditing and im going to be crazy!!! and feel the love and care..what else do you want darling when you have a boyfriend,and he loves you so much. you have your family, they love you also. you definitely have friends,and again they love you as well. so, what is perfect life?money?car?big house?you can get it all if you pay so much effort.but not with your body. got it?

4th promise : failed!

some question:

if dieting is the answer, what is the question?

In the States how much does the average fat women earn each year compared to her thin peers?
answer: nearly $7000

some points:
Young girls in the States are more afraid of becoming fat, than they are of nuclear war, cancer or losing their parents.

beauty comes in all sizes darling. no matter how big or how small you are.and please people, don't practice size discrimination.

-i am beautiful no matter what they say words can't bring me down I am beautiful in every single way Yes, words can't bring me down So don't you bring me down today -


dun worry be beautiful.. wink!